When someone asks us what kind of qualities you look for in a guy, it’s pretty unlikely that you’d find “selfish” on the list. While we don’t actively seek self-serving suitors, it’s common that some of us find ourselves in these less than desirable situations. There are even times when we want to be with someone so badly that we completely ignore all of the red flags that are right in front of us. We totally push our better judgment aside because we don’t want to admit the possibility that a guy could be with us for all of the wrong reasons. We can’t help who we fall for, even though we know there are times where we can let our emotions get the best of us. The best thing to do is be super aware of your dating life (and your partner), to make sure you don’t wind up in a one-sided faux relationship that meets all of his needs and none of yours. Here are 15 significant signs he’s using you right now and you don’t even know it.

1. He won’t talk about commitment

If your guy tries everything in his power to avoid talking about commitment at all costs, you should definitely take that as being a huge red flag. Of course, it’s pretty standard for some guys to be afraid of commitment, but it’s never a good sign. If he won’t commit to you, you know he’s up to no good. Whether you want to admit it or not, he definitely has a reason why he doesn’t want to settle down, even if he doesn’t vocalize it. It’s super likely that he won’t commit because he’s using you and he doesn’t actually see anything long-term with you.

2. He’s financially dependent on you

A grown man should never be your financial responsibility. You have enough on your plate without having to support some guy who can’t get his act together. If you find that you are always the one who gets stuck with the bill when you go out, you might want to question what you’re even doing with a guy like this in the first place. Not only that, but if he relies on you to pay his phone bill, purchase his groceries, or even chip in when he’s short on rent money, it’s clear that he’s only with you for financial purposes.

3. He doesn’t want you to meet his family or friends

A family is an extremely important aspect of a person’s life. If a man does not let you interact with his family or friends, do consider that as a sign that this guy is not interested in you. He is only using you. If a man values you enough then he will never hesitate in letting you meet his family and friends. He will be more than happy to introduce you to his family.